I had a traumatic experience from childhood that I had never shared with anyone; not even my best friends.
Even though I was a child, and a victim in that situation, I always felt "dirty," "ashamed," or "defective" because of it.
It came up in therapy one day. I was explaining all the reasons above for not wanting to share it with my wife. More than anything, I was embarrassed and ashamed.
My therapist said one sentence that I'll never forget. He said, "JUST CONSIDER THE POSSIBILITY, that she will love you even more, if she knew who you really were."
I had never thought about it that way.
I had presupposed that people will love me less if they knew who I *really* was. I had never considered the possibility that they may love me even more.
When I had finished telling my story, crying, I looked up. Unbeknownst to me, my wife had moved right next to me; was holding my hand; and was crying with me.
She obviously loved me more.
Just, consider the possibility.
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