How to argue kindly, from Daniel Dennett!
How to argue kindly! A great reminder from the great Daniel Dennett -- useful for conversations at work, and with friends and family too! Four steps to arguing kindly, IN ORDER (that's key!):
(1) You should attempt to re-express your target’s position so clearly, vividly, and fairly that your target says, “WOW! Thanks! I wish I’d thought of putting it that way myself!"
(2) You should l
ist any points of agreement (especially if they are not matters of general or widespread agreement).
(3) You should mention anything you have learned from your target.
(4) Then - AND ONLY THEN - are you permitted to say so much as a word of rebuttal or criticism.