When I tell people the story of my brother's passing, which happened when I was 25, they naturally say, "I'm sorry."
But if someone had asked me, before I was born: "Would you rather (A) have a brother, and experience one of the closest bonds in your life, for 25 years only, or (B) not have a brother at all?"
OF COURSE I would have picked (A).
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The source of a lot of our frustration, anger, and grief, is EXPECTATIONS.
We EXPECT something good to keep lasting: a good job, a good relationship, good health, a good friendship.
When it doesn't, we get frustrated, angry -- it feels like a "loss."
But there's no loss if you don't frame it as an expectation.
There's only gain.
Because the alternative would have been NOTHING: to not have the experience at all.